Book Summary: “You and Me Forever” by Francis Chan Notes & Quotes
The Secret to Happily Ever After
Most people tell you to focus on your marriage, but we found that focusing on God’s mission is what made our marriage amazing.
Having a happy family isn’t the goal of Christianity—God’s glory is.
Christians have become experts at conviction but failures at action.
Marriage isn’t that Great
People who aren’t living right make matters worse when they live together.
Most marriage problems aren’t really marriage problems—they’re God problems.
Protect your marriage by reminding each other that God is holy and that Jesus will come back at any moment.
Worship God, not marriage.
Your marriage should be drawing others into relationship with Christ.
Pursue the Perfect Marriage
The marriage we should be obsessed with is Christ’s marriage to the church.
There’s more at stake in your marriage than just your marriage. The beauty of the gospel is at stake.
Fight Well
We believe humility is the most important attribute of God for marriages.
As believers, we signed up to die to ourselves. We should be happy to surrender.
As a man, I should be so selfless that it reminds my wife of the cross.
When we display Christ’s love, it should hurt (comes at a cost).
Husbands should love their wives as their own bodies because that’s what Christ does for us. He nourishes and cherishes us because we are members of his body.
Imagine how beautiful your marriage would be if you were both desperately trying to outdo each other in showing honor.
Don’t Waste Your Marriage
Meet with your spouse and restructure your marriage around making disciples.
Discipleship involves opening up our homes, schedules, and resources so that others can grow in Christ.
Marital unity comes as a byproduct of serving the Lord.
I don’t want to stand in front of God at the end of my life and hear him ask, “Why did you get in the way of doing everything I called your spouse to do?”
The Amazing Race
Let’s live our lives like a runner who uses up every ounce of energy in the race because they know they can collapse once they break the tape.
Your life will be over any minute, and you’ll regret trying to hold on to things you aren’t able to keep.