Book Summary: “You and Me Forever” by Francis Chan Notes & Quotes

The Secret to Happily Ever After

  • Most people tell you to focus on your marriage, but we found that focusing on God’s mission is what made our marriage amazing.

  • Having a happy family isn’t the goal of Christianity—God’s glory is.

  • Christians have become experts at conviction but failures at action.

Marriage isn’t that Great

  • People who aren’t living right make matters worse when they live together.

  • Most marriage problems aren’t really marriage problems—they’re God problems.

  • Protect your marriage by reminding each other that God is holy and that Jesus will come back at any moment.

  • Worship God, not marriage.

  • Your marriage should be drawing others into relationship with Christ.

Pursue the Perfect Marriage

  • The marriage we should be obsessed with is Christ’s marriage to the church.

  • There’s more at stake in your marriage than just your marriage. The beauty of the gospel is at stake.

Fight Well

  • We believe humility is the most important attribute of God for marriages.

  • As believers, we signed up to die to ourselves. We should be happy to surrender.

  • As a man, I should be so selfless that it reminds my wife of the cross.

  • When we display Christ’s love, it should hurt (comes at a cost).

  • Husbands should love their wives as their own bodies because that’s what Christ does for us. He nourishes and cherishes us because we are members of his body.

  • Imagine how beautiful your marriage would be if you were both desperately trying to outdo each other in showing honor.

Don’t Waste Your Marriage

  • Meet with your spouse and restructure your marriage around making disciples.

  • Discipleship involves opening up our homes, schedules, and resources so that others can grow in Christ.

  • Marital unity comes as a byproduct of serving the Lord.

  • I don’t want to stand in front of God at the end of my life and hear him ask, “Why did you get in the way of doing everything I called your spouse to do?”

The Amazing Race

  • Let’s live our lives like a runner who uses up every ounce of energy in the race because they know they can collapse once they break the tape.

  • Your life will be over any minute, and you’ll regret trying to hold on to things you aren’t able to keep.


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